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| a question for mostly men |
[28 Dec 2009|02:42pm] |
in all serious guys, what is your opinion:
is it an emotional action to cum inside a woman with no protection? can you do it without feeling anything for a woman?
also: eating out, what makes you put in the effort of eating a woman out?
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[27 Dec 2009|01:43am] |
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[21 Dec 2009|11:16pm] |
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I was just wondering, if a woman goes from having sex with a guy who had an 8-inch penis for a few months, to, a month later, another guy who has a, for example, 4, 5 or 6-inch penis, would she be less sensitive to the newer experience, due to the older one that stretched the vagina's muscles more?
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[25 Dec 2009|05:48pm] |
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I've once read about a hormone of sorts that makes women more prone to become attatched to her partner after sex, for biological survival reasons. I can't seem to find the literature. What is the hormone?
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| Advice anyone?? |
[25 Dec 2009|05:12pm] |
ok you guys I have huge dilemma in my book.
My and boyfriend who is 27 and I am 21 has been together for 2yrs and I adore him. He gives me the world and the only things he wants in return is my love & loyalty which I am happy to give.
This where the brakes are beginning to pump Ive been with him for 2yrs and I have been sexually suppressing myself the whole time. When we have sex I do it his way I match his style to a tee and give him what he desires even if I dont feel like it all the while Im completely ignoring and shutting out my own sexual style. So now Im tired of suppressing my desires.
The only thing I truly need when It comes to sex is excitement, a thrill of some sort. Whether that be teasing me til I can no longer manage or playing some sort of game with me as foreplay. Sex to me is fun why not play? I also I LOVE PDA not only do I love but I need it, im a bit of a voyeur & exhibitionist. Kissing in public excites me, its passionate, it loving & its beautiful, who cares who is watching...its love its natural not something to hide.
Needless to say my boyfriend is not into PDA he would rather wait to passionately kiss me in the privacy of our home & to me thats so boring!!! I hate fucking and kissing in the same place...shit lets be adventurous, lets explore, lets feel the wind against our bodies as we kiss outside. He feels Im taking a petty matter and blowing it out of proportion. He feels we are both grown and should act it & come to a comprise. The comprise on his terms is he'll will give me pecks and hugs in public but nothing passionate until we are in the privacy of home. On my terms fuck a comprise...I need this. This is how I express myself sexually, he would hate if he couldnt fuck me his way, when Im not able to let loose like I would like I feel stifled and I feel like im loosing a piece of myself.- So anybody got any advice how I can make private person interested in pda?? Am I taking this out off proportion??
- Should I drop the matter and continue on how our relationship has been or should I drop him altogether?
- I dont want 2 cheat but damn....Im sitting here wondering can 2 ppl with 2 completely sexual appeties and desires really make it together? Everything is else is almost perfect just the sex...HELP ME PPL!!!
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[20 Dec 2009|12:39am] |
Hi again everyone,
I'm trying to find a reputable website that sells women's corsets/bustiers with garter belts... something dominatrix-y. Not teddies but corsets, something waist-length with garter straps... Anyway, Amazon sells mostly pleather and polyester and I was hoping to find something of better quality that's not too hard on the wallet. Macy's doesn't have that much to choose from, neither does Victoria's Secret. Any suggestions?
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| boyfriend is disinterested in sex |
[16 Dec 2009|10:29pm] |
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My boyfriend of over one year is disinterested in sex. Originally, the disinterest was caused by inexperience and performance anxiety. However, after many, many attempts to successfully have sexual intercourse and discussions about his fears/worries, we were finally able to have good sex. This was in the spring. His higher libido only lasted a few months though (late March to July). By August he was already disinterested in sex (not just piv, but ALL forms of sex) again. He constantly tells me how much he loves me, but it makes me think that he is only emotionally interested in me. I am the type of person who values a healthy sex life in a relationship and his lack of interest in sex is causing me to question if he is boyfriend material for me. We have talked about this issue on several occasions, but nothing seems to change. He blames in on his 'low libido' and 'not understanding his own body'. I have encouraged him to practice masturbating as a way for him to become more knowledgeable about his body (since he only masturbated in his junior year of high school/when he was sixteen years old) and/or to seek professional guidance. He seems to listen to my suggestions, but does not act upon them. I am beginning to question his sexuality/maturity since he expresses no interest in having any type of sex. Any advice on what to do about this situation? I am about to throw in the towel out of frustration and rejection.
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[23 Dec 2009|01:36pm] |
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I'm so tired I feel like I can't sleep enough
I don't want to get up in the morning
I just feel so weak
I'm tired of feeling like this
I just feel really low now
The only thing I can really depend on is making me go crazy
I dunno what to do
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[21 Dec 2009|04:49pm] |
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( I slipped up--- cut due to possibly trigger for some )
I'm going to start to heal again. I'm not going to count days.... I end up putting too much emphasis on the days & I set myself up for failure. I realize now that this isn't as easy as just making the decision to quit. It's going to be a constant battle somedays & it may never get easier... but I pray that it will. Relapse IS a part of Recovery. I think that is something that has been particularly hard for me to accept. Slip-ups are going to happen, but it doesn't mean all hope is lost and healing isn't taking place. But it's still hard to deal with.
I don't know if I sure be feeling more guilty than I am about slipping up. I feel a bit guilty. I feel a bit selfishly sick. But, I still feel as though I want to get better, and I'm not a horrible person... I'm just not a well person.
Anyone have any words of advice or encouragement about how I can look at these slip-ups and not let them get me down? How can I acknowledge them but not let them own me?
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[21 Dec 2009|08:50am] |
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I'm looking for some new emo music, so I was wondering what everyones faves are?
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| Growing up... |
[21 Dec 2009|12:21am] |
I used to be active in this community a few years ago when things were really tough for me, but as I got older, I didn't have time to be on the computer so much. But I will get to my point. Now, I'm 19, but still stuck emotionally where I used to be active here around 14/15 years old. Now in a long-term relationship, I feel that if I start to cut again, he will feel it's his fault. But right now, I just have the overwhelming feeling that all of us know: I need to cut; I need to see the blood drip, you know?
But I'm an "adult" now and I can't play it off as some sort of teenage phase. I don't know how to find help or who to turn to. The feelings I feel aren't familiar to my boyfriend. He does not understand it at all, supportive he is, but you don't understand until you get sucked into the cycle yourself.
I guess I just want to express how I feel to people that understand, to feel part of something bigger than me. Thanks.
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| Relapse... Really?? Yes |
[18 Dec 2009|03:09pm] |
I deleted my facebook.. AGAIN. Oh and I cut. BOO!! I totally threw 77 days clean down the drain. It can't be about the days anymore. I hate it being about the number of days... they haunt me and they chase after me... in a way, maybe cutting this time was partly to get rid of those days.. to get them to stop chasing me. I sent a message to my friend on facebook on Saturday.. she never responded.. though she logged on. Then I wrote on her wall just saying hi and and wishing her well and "hope to see ya soon".. blah, blah, blah.. she never commented on it.. though she logged on. So then earlier today I sent her this message:
( Read more... )
She never responded to it. She logged on, but didn't respond. I know there could be a billion reasons, but I know the reason. It's because she hates me now. No one responds to me, though I rarely message anyone. I don't know why I'm so horrible. I knew all along facebook was being used to hurt me. That me having it was a bad thing. That it made it easier for them to conspire against me. So I cut. I cut because I hate myself. No one cares. They say they do, but where are they when I need them? When I really need them they're nowhere to be found. No one is. So, I cut. Because I'm a fucking loser. Because I'm not smart enough to hold on to what I know, in the back of my mind, the truth is. I hate myself. I don't care to tell them I messed up. I sent Mom an email that I did. That's how desperate I've become.. I've actually told my Mother. I know that we're trying to get me help and I should have just held on.. but I'm too selfishly sick. They'll think bad of me I know it. I want to make them happy to be my friend. I want them to be proud. Instead, I've probably made her frustrated and annoyed. I'm such a horrible person. Who am I fooling? Like I could ever do those things I wanted to do in life. Yeah right. It's impossible. I can't even believe anymore in that... I feel hopeless. I feel like I've screwed things up too much. God doesn't give this many chances. I think He gets the message that I don't care... but I do.. but I can't.. and I do.. but I don't.. and it's quiet obvious I need help? this isn't all my fault. I didn't ask for this. I didn't want it. But why can't I carry this hurt, this burden knowing that God allowed it for a reason.. if only I could figure out the reason.. maybe it'd be easier on me.
"I want to make you happy, I've fallen, I'm sorry.
I thought my wings could hold me up,
With angels, not demons."
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[16 Dec 2009|11:21am] |
so when my boyfriend goes down on me, when it builds up and i'm digging it, it starts to get uncomfortable where it feels like a tickle fight and i feel like i need to pee really badly (but i don't); is this considered a normal part of climaxing? do other girls enjoy this? i just feel like i need to stop but like that's a bummer, not being able to get off on oral. now i just feel hesitant about being eaten out and i don't want this sensation to ruin oral for me. when i end up doing is biting my hand and wait until he does something else.
and not really a concern but a curiosity, how long until it stopped hurting for girls after they started having sex or how long until they started enjoying it?
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